they really hate women with short hair
I'm still growing my hair out from when I had to shave it off last year in October due to intense hairloss because of my medication. It's now a couple centimeters long and looks like any other short hair haircut, no longer a buzzcut. Before that, my hair reached down to my lower back.
And wow, strangers really hate that! I didn't notice as much with the buzzcut, because maybe it's seen as brave, sick, high-fashion sometimes? But the normal short hair, oh god. The behavior I see just keeps happening for months now and it can't be a coincidence, and enough people have talked about lookism and pretty privilege.
I can go out with my short hair and no matter the way I dress, no matter if I smile or not, no matter how cheery and friendly I am or whatever - people act very off. They stare through me, or angrily at me. They cut me off (verbally or while walking). They don't make space for me on the sidewalk. They don't make space in the grocery store aisle, either. People step in my way, they ram their cart in my way, they almost run me over with cars in the parking lot. Retail workers either ignore me or respond in a very rude, pissed off voice.
When I put on my wig, I get treated the way I am used to: kindly. Sure, sometimes people will just be assholes no matter what, but by default, people make space. People smile at me. Retail workers treat me nicely or at least in a neutral way. Cars let me cross the street before them and they wait patiently in the parking lot. The way I dress doesn't even matter: I can go somewhere in a big hoodie and sweatpants but with the wig and I get treated well.
But if I go out with my short hair and a great outfit they hate that! Same face, same body, same behavior. You'd think maybe the reason behind it is that the wig somehow made me more comfortable and confident and the world mirrors it back to me, but no... I can feel great without it and return home humbled because everyone was mean. I am writing this right now after a retail worker just rudely snatched a mango out of my hands? I didn't even ask her to help me or wanted her help, she was just huffing and puffing being rude and snatching the mango away before I could weigh it?
It reminds me of what my soon-to-be-mother-in-law said to me. I told her that people at the office said the short hair really suits me and I should just keep it. She straight up said they're just saying that because they don't have nice long hair like mine and they're jealous. I trust her judgement on that because she sat right next to me when we shaved my head. And it's crazy, because she doesn't even know the people at my office, but she was right that it was exactly the people who have short flimsy hair and otherwise have some issues with me. Even my mum said I should keep the short hair and she's always been my biggest foe in life, so it checks out. The sabotage! You just have to giggle about it.
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Published 19 Apr, 2025