indieweb carnival february 2025 - affirmations
This is an entry for this month's IndieWeb carnival about affirmations.
I'm very flexible what affirmations mean to me, how they're structured and how I use them.
The traditional, typical I-statements as facts of who you are ("I am kind and patient") are things I like to write down somewhere; it feels powerful to me to not just have them there mentally, but put it on paper. I think it sticks more and is more easily revisited. There's a lot online about affirmations in connection to manifestation and Law Of Attraction, which yes, is at its core human pattern recognition, confirmation bias and crafting a story for ourselves. But I don't think it's harmful, so I love to do it casually, and it works out for me. One event particularly sticks out to me:
A few years ago, I was going through a breakup and was about to get kicked out of the place I was living in because of it (no rental contract; don't do this). The housing market was already bad and I had a dog, something that landlords hate. No one was able to take me in, not even my own mother. I didn't know what to do. So one evening while crying I wrote down everything I wanted to have, but in a reassuring and knowing style, like everything had already been taken care of and I was just telling myself what would happen. I wrote about how things would work out, that everything would happen in time, and more details of my life. And exactly that came true. I'm still living in that apartment I got shortly after to this day, and I have kept this note in a special place.
There are other things I like to tell myself. "Trust the process." is something I think often and also showed up in the writing I did back then. There's also a reminder on the back of my tablet that serves a similar purpose to an affirmation for me:
It's a bit corny, but I like it.
I also use music a lot for this. Culturally in the past, music and song was such a good way for us to remember stories, rules and more before we could write it down, and the fact that we memorize lyrics so easily and get songs stuck in our head even nowadays is more proof of that. I try to make sure that the lyrics bouncing around in my head (especially due to internal echolalia) have some positive affirmations. Qveen Herby is my favorite for this, and I made a playlist specifically for that purpose.
It starts with a breathing exercise type of thing and goes on to normal songs. The themes are ambition and success, feeling happy and content, staying kind and calm, being hot and powerful, taking care of yourself, forgiveness, confidence, being magnetic and getting everything you want 8)
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Published 06 Feb, 2025