๐ i got married!
I got married last weekend!
Everything went as planned and it was beautiful and fun. The days were spent with eating good food, playing games together, hanging out, singing karaoke until 3am1 and riding my wife's new e-scooter (b-day gift) up and down the road. I was very touched by the gifts people got us because they were so fitting, caring and personal2.
My wife sewed her dress herself. Took her two months, and it looked amazing.
My stuff was bought, because I am not that skilled in sewing and didn't have a vision for what I wanted initially. I ended up finding the perfect flowery dress for me, together with a flower crown and (3d-printed) antlers. I felt amazing!
Something funny happened, too. The cops came to my wedding! Not even the party location, but the city hall!
We married outside of the usual times and days offered by the city; you can do so upon request, so we did. Our registrar opened the city hall for us that day, but forgot to disable the silent, invisible alarm for burglars. So while we entered, the police was notified automatically about people breaking into the city hall. We were lucky, because a friend's mum was intentionally waiting outside to greet us after, and was able to stop the cops before entering and explain what happened. Otherwise they would have raided the ceremony. Oops.
When we went outside after everything was said and done, I saw the cop cars and joked they were gonna arrest us for gay marriage, and then later I found out it was because of the false alarm. :D
There's also something I wanna mention at the end to encourage the right people.
I remember years ago when I still used to read things on Reddit, people were consistently labeled the asshole on r/AITA for wanting to have a vegan or alcohol-free wedding. Well, we did it, and everyone had fun, and I don't care if it makes us assholes. Just do it! The wedding is for you and not some entitled guests - they can have their own wedding.
Your values and visions matter. You're not a burden or weird and you don't owe them shit you're not comfortable with. Sensible people know they can eat 1-2 vegan meals without dying and they can also have fun without alcohol. We had a lot of vegan and vegetarian guests who felt at ease and safe with food, and the meat eaters were fine with it too and praising the food. We had soyfree options for people sensitive to soy as well. It was nice for our guests with past alcohol issues to not be tempted. You don't have to be pressured by tradition or what everyone else does, silly rules like "but you just HAVE to have alcohol at celebrations!" No :)
And wear whatever you want. Even the older generations I thought would laugh at the antlers loved them.
And for the people out there who also can't bring family to their own wedding: I feel you! No one from my family was invited and only one person (my mum) even knew about it. I grieved that and I worried it was going to be weird and cause a lot of questions and confusion with other guests, but it actually didn't. I completely forgot about it the entire day and no one brought it up. <3
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Published 05 May, 2025
We are peak millennials, so we screamed along to Mr. Brightside by the Killers, Mama and Welcome to the Black Parade by My Chemical Romance, Schrei nach Liebe by Die รrzte, Never Gonna Give You Up by Rick Astley, Dance Dance by Fallout Boy, Losing my Religion by REM, What I've Done by Linkin Park, some Neon Genesis Evangelion stuff and more I can't think of right now. Also had Pink Pony Club by Chappell Roan. I actually did Tantrum by Ashnikko and You Wish by Flyana Boss :p I think You Wish was my top song 2024, so you can imagine I gave everyone a show, no matter how silly and dirty the lyrics are.↩
Big thank you to Nusch, our best man; Ben and Julia; Gabriel and Sitha; Pascal; Andi; Leo; Julia and Flo; and Marta!↩